More than the sum of your parts

Online therapy using Internal Family Systems (IFS) within a person-centred pluralistic approach.I work with clients across the UK and internationally.

About me

Hi, I’m Lorraine Sela.I’m a BSc (Hons) Person-Centred Pluralistic Counsellora and Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapist.I work with adults who feel overwhelmed or stuck in reactive patterns, especially in relationships, where things can quickly shift into intensity, shutdown, or feeling “too much.”My approach is non-pathologising, sex-positive, and grounded in both IFS and pluralistic therapy.I work with emotional complexity, trauma, attachment, and relational patterns, including with clients in the adult industry.In our work together, we map those reactions back to the parts of you trying to protect. From there, things can begin to shift, moving from survival responses toward a more steady, connected way of relating.I am a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).Training:
• BSc (Hons) Person-Centred Pluralism
• Internal Family Systems (Level 1), IFS InstituteSessions are held online via Zoom in a quiet, confidential space.I offer a free 15-minute call to see if we’re a good fit

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Fees and sessions

I offer online one-to-one therapy sessions at these rates:• 60 minutes – £50• 90 minutes – £75• 30 minutes – £25Full fee is payable for all missed sessions or cancellations with less than 48 hours’ notice, unless we can reschedule within the same working week.Some reduced fee spaces are available for limited blocks of time (up to 6 sessions).Most people choose 60-minute sessions, but some prefer 90 minutes for more in-depth work.I also offer 30-minute sessions for those who find a full hour too much at first.You’re welcome to come for a single session, a short block, or to work in an open-ended way.If we’re meeting regularly, I often suggest beginning with six-sessions.Weekly or fortnightly sessions are usual.I offer flexible scheduling, including some evening and weekend availability.

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Work with me if you...

feel out of place, misunderstood, or overwhelmed, we might work well together.

This includes, but isn’t limited to, people who identify with or explore:• Neurodivergence (including autism, ADHD, sensory processing)• Sexuality in all its forms - from sex positivity to sexual trauma recovery• Queer, non-binary, and gender-expansive identities• Kink, BDSM, and consent-forward relationships• Polyamory, open dynamics, or non-traditional bonds• Marginalised or stigmatised work - like sex work or other under-recognised forms of labour• Spiritual experiences, non-ordinary states, psychedelic integration or non-verbal ways of knowing

What is IFS?

Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a way of understanding yourself as made up of different parts.These inner parts could be inner voices, roles, or reactions.They often have strong feelings, strong opinions, and their own reasons for showing up.IFS isn’t about getting rid of any part of you.It’s about getting to know them, on their terms, and beginning to hear what they need.Many people start IFS in a state of overwhelm, self-criticism, or inner conflict.When parts feel genuinely seen and supported, they can start to let go of the burdens (beliefs, feelings or roles) they’ve been carrying.

IFS may be a good fit if you are…

• Living with anxiety, depression, emotional overwhelm, or inner criticism• Coming up against painful relationship patterns• Caught in compulsive behaviours, addictions, or eating difficulties• Struggling to shift patterns• Finding the same emotional themes showing up in self-talk• Carrying trauma, whether from childhood, a single event, or you just aren’t sure• Navigating grief• Noticing parts of you pulling in different directions• Aware of messages or expectations passed down through family, culture, or upbringingIFS supports you in building an internal relationship that can lead to real shifts.IFS can sit alongside other kinds of support.Such as body-based work, or 12-step recovery programmes.

IFS may not be the right approach right now if…

• You’re in acute crisis and need urgent support to feel safe or stabilisedIf you’re not sure whether this is the right time or fit, I offer a free, no-pressure call to discuss.If something else feels more suitable right now, I’m happy to suggest other options.

What is Person-Centred Pluralism?

Person-Centred Pluralism is an approach to therapy that recognises each person as complex, layered, and different.It begins with the belief that you are the expert on your own life.And that therapy should adapt to you, not the other way around.Rooted in presence and non-judgement.There is no one right way to heal, just the way that feels most real and respectful to you..

How this might look in an online space

Pluralistic therapy online can still be creative, flexible, and embodied.Our sessions don’t have to be seated, spoken, or static.Depending on what helps you feel most resourced, our work might include:• Talking while walking• Using objects, artwork, or textures from your home• Exploring parts through drawing, mapping, or metaphor• Making space for emotion through breath, stillness, or movementI work within my capabilities, and I’m open to shaping sessions around what matters to you.

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FAQs

How do I book a session?Drop me an email or WhatsApp and we’ll take it from there.Do you offer online or in-person therapy?I almost always work online.Occasionally, I offer in-person sessions either outdoors or in a private therapy room.All sessions are held in confidential and private spaces, even when I’m travelling.How long is each session?Sessions are usually 60 minutes, but 90 and 30 minutes are possible.How often should I come to therapy?Weekly sessions are effective, especially at the beginning. Some people prefer  twice a week during critical life events.
Fortnightly sessions can also work after a while.What if I need to cancel or reschedule?Just send me a message.I ask for at least 48 hours’ notice for cancellations.If you cancel with less notice or don’t attend, the full fee is payable.If we can find another time in the same week, I may be able to reschedule, subject to availability.How do I get started?Just send me a message saying you’d like to book a free 15-minute call.We’ll find a time that works, and I’ll send you a Zoom link.In the call, we’ll chat about what’s bringing you to therapy, what you’re hoping might change, and anything you’d like me to know.You can share as much or as little as you like.At the end of the call, we’ll decide together whether to go ahead.I always enjoy meeting people for these short calls.Do you give advice?Not usually.I may suggest tools like grounding or containment if you’re feeling overwhelmed.What are sessions like?Sessions vary depending on what you need.Some are reflective. Others are more process-based.You might talk through your week or explore specific parts, I’ll usually ask what would you like to do this session.What kind of therapy do you offer?I work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Person-Centred Pluralistic Therapy.